This article by Sound Options is a very good summary of some key dynamics in family grieving. From asynchronous grieving, to permission to grieve and the general lack of social acceptance for grief, this article covers a lot in a very short space.
One of the family dynamics that often occurs after a death or a loss is something called “asynchronous grief”, where different members are in different stages and on separate routes in the process causing potential strain in family dynamics. Some may be angry and frustrated while others are detached, and some members may be moving into acceptance while others are still in denial. The key here is to be gracious to one another and honor the varied topography of grief and the many ways to travel.The Usefulness of Grief: Ambiguous Loss & How to be Present with Those Grieving
- Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief by Dr. Pauline Boss, PhD
- Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work with Ambiguous Loss by Dr. Pauline Boss, PhD
- The Art of Being a Healing Presence by James E. Miller and Susan Cutshall